Monday, September 1, 2008

Life's Not Easier Just Cause Your Sober

The weeks have just gotten lost in my seeming perpetual battle with the divorce, although it is now official - I now have an "Ex-Wife"!

As nice as it is to say that, this fact ushers in a new era for all of us - A new era that will take some time to adjust to. My kids, Dude and Pumpkin, have further to go than BuddyLuv. Both will have periods where they are less receptive to the 'inclusion' of Babushka and BuddyLuv than other periods.

This weekend was one of those where Dude was not very receptive. This obviously bothered Babushka. I in turn am torn between being protective of both of them. It leaves me conflicted. From what I have read and from friends I have spoken to this is a natural occurrence that is to be expected. This does not make me feel any better, knowing how much it hurts my dear Babushka.

Between my preoccupations with exes and kids, I feel like I have been less than 100% available to Babushka as she has dealt with a number of medical events that have impacted her family. Although this is not something to beat myself up emotionally about, I do not enjoy the thought of not always being her night in shining armor.

It feels like Babushka and I are starting to encounter the inevitable 'growing pains' of our relationship. It also feels (at least to me) that we are doing as good of a job as we can of navigating these complex waters.

Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
I love my life, my Babushka and is good (if not easy)


The Covert Lover said...

An easy life would just be too boring. Being able to say life is good - now that's an excellent thing! :)

Congrats on the divorce!

Dana said...

Well, here I am again knowing from where you speak all too well. As long as you and Babushka can manage an open dialogue - validating each other fears and frustrations - you will get through this!

Big Kahuna said...

Covert - Good to see you again. I believe you went private so I will need to ask you for access.

Dana - Thanks as always for your comments and support!!

Original GRITS said...

I found you through TMI Tuesday and thought I'd read back a bit to learn about you.

Divorce sucks...not that it's not an inevitable thing for some marriages but damn at all the things you have to go through with one.

Kids are resilient and will come around in time. Patience will pay off in this area.

I wish you the best...and your Babushka, as well.

Big Kahuna said...

Hi Grits - Thanks for stopping by and for the words of support. They are appreciated