Hello, All!
I am so sorry that this is late. It was a rough day yesterday. Just a reminder of who truly supports you, who you can trust. . . And, who you cannot.
That promotion I, "would be perfect for" that my director, "cannot see anyone else coming in here better qualified or better fit" for AND that my supervisor, "may have to review applicants after HR does because sometimes people qualify but hr does not give them proper credit" slipped away. . . without my supervisor taking the time to go in and review the applications. I cannot even begin to express my disappointment. . .
But, there is a reason. So, lets go onto TMI instead. . .
1) Would you stay in a relationship with a physically unfaithful partner?
KAHUNA – Yes. Having been on the other side of that ‘fence’ in my previous relationship I am aware of the fact that most people do not simply wake up one morning and decide to have sex with someone. There is a pattern of unhappiness and neglect that has occurred. I would want to understand what I have done to neglect Babushka in such a way that she would pursue this option.
BABUSHKA - In the past, no way in hell. If someone would rather cheat than work on the problems, then they did not want to be with me and I did not want to be with them. Now, yes with "buts". But, I would not take the blame or accept that "I" did something wrong to make Kahuna cheat. Just like if I were to cheat, it would not be solely because of something Kahuna did or did not do. But, we would need to both have a desire to do whatever is necessary to get back to us. Our relationship is a shared, giving relationship of equals and balance. If I cheated, or he cheated, "We" would have something "we" need to work on. But, we would need to do whatever we needed to do to allow for healing time, forgiveness and growth. But, it could not be a pattern. If it were, than none of the other buts could be true, which would be truly scary and unhealthy.
2) Would you stay in a relationship with an emotionally unfaithful partner?
KAHUNA – Yes, although if this was a continual, ongoing pattern of behavior I would not continue in the relationship.
BABUSHKA - Same as my first answer.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how important is the recognition of birthdays to you (your's, a friend's, a partner's)?
KAHUNA – Perhaps a 3 or a 4.
BABUSHKA - Very! Like, 8. Yes, it is just a date. But, it is a celebration of your life. Although, I agree that we should celebrate our lives all the time!
4. When you have a "toe-curling" orgasm, do your toes curl up, or down?
KAHUNA – Down (How do toes curl up?)
BABUSHKA - (laughing) To tell you the truth, when I have a toe-curling orgasm, I am so filled with joy, peace and pleasure that I have never paid attention to the direction of my toes. . .
5. Every one has a pet peeve, tell me one of yours.
KAHUNA – In general I would say clutter – Specifically I would say a messy kitchenBonus
BABUSHKA - Before, I would have paniced after reading Kahuna's answer. But, luckily, he agrees that things like that are not worth fighting over. If it bothers you that much, assist with or fix it yourself. My pet peeve would be. . . I cannot think of one.
BONUS: (as in optional): Name someone famous who you have no sexual interest in but would have sex with just to brag about it?
KAHUNA – I am not a celebrity-type person. If I do not find someone sexually attractive there is no chance I would ever have sex with them.
BABUSHKA - Nada.
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
TMI Tuesday #120
1. Would you stay in a relationship with a physically unfaithful partner?
KAHUNA – Yes. Having been on the other side of that ‘fence’ in my previous relationship I am aware of the fact that most people do not simply wake up one morning and decide to have sex with someone. There is a pattern of unhappiness and neglect that has occurred. I would want to understand what I have done to neglect Babushka in such a way that she would pursue this option.
KAHUNA – Yes, although if this was a continual, ongoing pattern of behavior I would not continue in the relationship.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how important is the recognition of birthdays to you (your's, a friend's, a partner's)?
KAHUNA – Perhaps a 3 or a 4
KAHUNA – Down (How do toes curl up?)
5. Every one has a pet peeve, tell me one of yours.
KAHUNA – In general I would say clutter – Specifically I would say a messy kitchen
KAHUNA – I am not a celebrity-type person. If I do not find someone sexually attractive there is no chance I would ever have sex with them.
KAHUNA – Yes. Having been on the other side of that ‘fence’ in my previous relationship I am aware of the fact that most people do not simply wake up one morning and decide to have sex with someone. There is a pattern of unhappiness and neglect that has occurred. I would want to understand what I have done to neglect Babushka in such a way that she would pursue this option.
KAHUNA – Yes, although if this was a continual, ongoing pattern of behavior I would not continue in the relationship.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how important is the recognition of birthdays to you (your's, a friend's, a partner's)?
KAHUNA – Perhaps a 3 or a 4
KAHUNA – Down (How do toes curl up?)
5. Every one has a pet peeve, tell me one of yours.
KAHUNA – In general I would say clutter – Specifically I would say a messy kitchen
KAHUNA – I am not a celebrity-type person. If I do not find someone sexually attractive there is no chance I would ever have sex with them.
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Back to the Real World
Well, Babushka and I are back from our "romantic weekend" downtown.
Having a cold with congested sinuses and a runny nose does not lead to the wildest of sexplay - (brings a whole new meaning to role play of Dr. and Patient). I do not recall many porn movies where the guy is wheezing, coughing, sniffling and blowing his nose during the main event - I am sure there is some bizarre niche for this thought).
What was so wonderful is that Babushka and I could enjoy ourselves sexually even when we are both less than 100%. No need for pretending we feel better than we do - just us being intimate and under the weather.
I just love this in a relationship - honesty, intimacy, transparency. Can't find this type of comfort in a booty call. Reading Gillette's post today again confirmed for me that I am indeed blessed.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
I forget......Do I feed a cold or feed a fever?
- Dinner was wonderful (Babushka ate her entire non-petite filet mignon - WOW!)
- Martina McBride was awesome, as was Lady Antebellum (Not impressed with Jack Ingram at all).
- Hotel room was very comfortable (Breakfast buffet was awesome - I love make-your-own Belgium Waffles)
Having a cold with congested sinuses and a runny nose does not lead to the wildest of sexplay - (brings a whole new meaning to role play of Dr. and Patient). I do not recall many porn movies where the guy is wheezing, coughing, sniffling and blowing his nose during the main event - I am sure there is some bizarre niche for this thought).
What was so wonderful is that Babushka and I could enjoy ourselves sexually even when we are both less than 100%. No need for pretending we feel better than we do - just us being intimate and under the weather.
I just love this in a relationship - honesty, intimacy, transparency. Can't find this type of comfort in a booty call. Reading Gillette's post today again confirmed for me that I am indeed blessed.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
I forget......Do I feed a cold or feed a fever?
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Forgive us, as it has been 3 months since or last...
....HNT Confession
Life has been busy and stressful (as you can read in previous posts) but life is too short. Below is another lovely and teasing shot of my Babushka from about 4 months ago. Saturday we will be enjoying a belated 1-year anniversary of our 1st date. I bought Babushka 3.5 hours at a spa for Christmas, which she will enjoy while I entertain her BuddyLuv. We will then have dinner, attend a Martina McBride concert and spend the evening at a nearby hotel.
I intend to stock up on some new HNT (and 'Other' HNT) photos of the lovely and increasingly svelte Babushka.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin' Yeah for me!!!!!
Life has been busy and stressful (as you can read in previous posts) but life is too short. Below is another lovely and teasing shot of my Babushka from about 4 months ago. Saturday we will be enjoying a belated 1-year anniversary of our 1st date. I bought Babushka 3.5 hours at a spa for Christmas, which she will enjoy while I entertain her BuddyLuv. We will then have dinner, attend a Martina McBride concert and spend the evening at a nearby hotel.
I intend to stock up on some new HNT (and 'Other' HNT) photos of the lovely and increasingly svelte Babushka.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin' Yeah for me!!!!!
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Cold enough for you.....................
It has been a cold few days up in the frozen tundra up north - perfect illustration of my week last week. As with everything else, time thaws the weather as well as my demeanor. Babushka captured much of those challenges in her last blog. I was going to blog that night she did, but mine would have been much angrier. In hindsight I am glad Babushka worded everything so eloquently.
Divorce may blow but the Packers suck!!!!
The call that she referred to from the 4 nieces was right at the height of my internal anger and was exactly what I needed. Who can stay angry when 4 wonderful girls tell you how much they miss you. :-) It does amaze me that I have truly known these girls so little yet they mean so much to me. BuddyLuv is becoming a larger focus in my life as well and I have the same worries she has except I wonder when they will ask me to leave.
I am in fact a college graduate - only took 23 years!!! I was sad that my kids (Dude and Pumpkin) but understand. The integration of my kids into the life that Babushka and I are developing is a concern for me (as I know it is for Babushka as well). Patience and flexibility is needed by us all but it is not easy.
No TMI Tuesday this week - all the book questions were a bit too much and my darling Babushka is sick. I think I will wait to post an HNT until Babushka and I get time to take some new photos of her showing off our shrinking bodies (She is down 17lbs and I am down 12lbs since our last photos were taken in the fall!!!!).
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'Divorce may blow but the Packers suck!!!!
Monday, January 21, 2008
The new Year is Showing Promise
Hello, everyone!
Well, last week was full of ups and downs.
Last weekend 1/11-1/13 was beautiful, with Kahuna spending the majority of the weekend with us starting Thursday. Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful! He has easily become a part of the family. On Thursday we went to my niece's basketball game. I am chopped liver when he is around. All of my nieces (Peanut, Princess, Wild Child, Angel baby and Cuddle Bunny) and the little foster boy my sister mothers are totally enamored by him! Princess reminds me a lot of my sister, little Blondie, very shy, doesn't seam to feel like she fits in, not too sure about herself. . . Sadly, even in 4th grade, she is rarely allowed to play because of her untapped and unnurtured abilities. literally, 30 seconds out on the floor and she is pulled off again. In those 30 seconds, she is a super star! We holler, hoot and cheer as loud as we can! She was out there 3 times, about 30 seconds each. After the game, Kahuna went over to share his concerns, assuring the coaches that he knew they would never purposely not play a child at that age for any reason. :-) We went to Culvers and enjoyed frozen custard in celebration of her great work!
Thursday, Friday and Saturday Kahuna stayed with us. Sunday, we had the most delicious dinner, made by Kahuna with help from the nieces. Kahuna has slowly started treading the waters of parenting a child he did not take part in creating. It is not the easiest thing. . . In fact, it is down right scary. My biggest fear is that BuddyLuv will react in some way which makes Kahuna decide, "This is not worth the trouble" and leave. BUT, this is a fear we have discussed many times. Time will alleviate those fears.
Sunday night Kahuna prepared to leave for out state on business. That was the start if the tough times. . .
Kahuna left on Monday of last week. Things just do not feel right when he is away. There is a small part of me that was worried. Kahuna was traveling with someone he cannot stand, to a place he did not want to go, and spent time alone right before the pretrial. I was not worried that he would act out. But, I was worried it would be a struggle to not act out. I knew he could deal with everything on his plate. I just want things to be easy and peaceful for him.
Months back, at our department meeting, a new position was mentioned. I was so excited by it that I went in the next day to ask the director for more details. . . His response, "I am so glad you were the one to approach me about it. I said something because I was hoping you would be interested." For months, we have been discussing it. My input has been requested to build this new position. So, for months, even if I tried not to, I started to get excited by the possibilities.
Fast forward to the Monday Kahuna was gone, frustration was building. My director wants me in that position. He and my supervisor literally wrote the qualifications to try to assist me in qualifying by HRs rules. BUT, Hr does the first go through of apps scoring them all. They are ranked solely on their experience, and only a certain number are offered an interview. Well, it is a coveted senior position. It is two steps up from where I am now, and most of the department (who is already a step above me) is applying. Not that they want the job. Not that they want the duties. Not even that they CAN work the required hours. They just want the pay and title! All week, every time I turned around, someone else was talking about how they were applying for the wrong reasons. Even my team mate who, "never wants more responsibility than", and "never wants to have to lead" is now applying! IF I can get an interview, I will blow them away because this position is a dream come true for me and my true interest in the position and duties is well known. That is, if I get the interview! If HR ranks us by experience, and most of these people applying for the wrong reasons have double my experience. . . Well, it doesn't look good. . . Luckily, because we are IT and HR fully admits they do not really understand the lingo, my supervisor who will oversee this new position can review the apps and increase the interview pool if he wishes, as long as he can do it across the board.
Tuesday was the same as Monday except that my Kahuna came home and straight to our home from the airport.
Wednesday was pretrial day. The date most divorcing parties finally settle on an agreement. The date most divorcing couple can finally move on. Then there is us. Basically, they could not settle on anything because she is not willing to settle for less than 100% of everything (BIG house, almost new car, not having to work, fully supported by Kahuna) until the kids graduate from high school (8 years) and the majority of everything after that until she dies. His bonus is frozen and put into a trust. With the housing market being the way it is, we were also informed that the mortgage payment may be mandated to always be paid (I think he said straight from his check like child support) to ensure the house never goes into foreclosure. I think even all of that I could deal with if it were over. BUT, I also know that there is little chance she will get ALL of this if we can stay strong until the end. We just need to stay strong and not give in. And, when will it end? Well, right now there is another pre-trial to give her another 90 days to try and find a job that is not beneath her that will hire her. Then, we may have a scheduled end date. after that. . .
This was a rough day. But, we made it through to the next day! Back to another Thursday. . . Kahuna stayed home to go to an AA meeting. But, it was not his normal night and there was smoking allowed because of the location. So, he did not stay. Instead, he threw himself into helping me with my application for the promotion. In the meantime, I went to Princess' game. Everyone was sad Kahuna was not there. So, we called him and everyone said hello. I could hear the pain and stress of the week melt away, if only for a few moment. . . This time, she played exactly 1/2 the game. And, she did really well! We celebrated with Culver's again. Kahuna called to talk to Princess to see how everything went.
Friday I got an alarming email from my new renter who has not even moved in yet, but signed the contract. He had concerns. . . a whole list of them. I received the list over email, panicked, took a deep breath (like Kahuna said) and responded back truthfully. Luckily, I believe this was one of those times where things came across differently than they were meant.
Saturday I got to pick up Peanut who is spending the weekend with us. Sunday was graduation day! I was SO PROUD! to be there supporting Kahuna. Peanut and BuddyLuv were also very happy to be there and be a part of the day! I know it was hard for Kahuna to accept the fact that this graduation was not as important to Dude, who was not there. But, I think he still enjoyed himself! I cried! I was so proud! He was the most beautiful graduate there! After graduation, we enjoyed a wonderful dinner at BWW, the football game cuddled up on the couch and a beautiful and powerful orgasm on Kahuna's tongue when we snuck into the bedroom.
Maybe this new year is showing promise.
Well, last week was full of ups and downs.
Last weekend 1/11-1/13 was beautiful, with Kahuna spending the majority of the weekend with us starting Thursday. Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful! He has easily become a part of the family. On Thursday we went to my niece's basketball game. I am chopped liver when he is around. All of my nieces (Peanut, Princess, Wild Child, Angel baby and Cuddle Bunny) and the little foster boy my sister mothers are totally enamored by him! Princess reminds me a lot of my sister, little Blondie, very shy, doesn't seam to feel like she fits in, not too sure about herself. . . Sadly, even in 4th grade, she is rarely allowed to play because of her untapped and unnurtured abilities. literally, 30 seconds out on the floor and she is pulled off again. In those 30 seconds, she is a super star! We holler, hoot and cheer as loud as we can! She was out there 3 times, about 30 seconds each. After the game, Kahuna went over to share his concerns, assuring the coaches that he knew they would never purposely not play a child at that age for any reason. :-) We went to Culvers and enjoyed frozen custard in celebration of her great work!
Thursday, Friday and Saturday Kahuna stayed with us. Sunday, we had the most delicious dinner, made by Kahuna with help from the nieces. Kahuna has slowly started treading the waters of parenting a child he did not take part in creating. It is not the easiest thing. . . In fact, it is down right scary. My biggest fear is that BuddyLuv will react in some way which makes Kahuna decide, "This is not worth the trouble" and leave. BUT, this is a fear we have discussed many times. Time will alleviate those fears.
Sunday night Kahuna prepared to leave for out state on business. That was the start if the tough times. . .
Kahuna left on Monday of last week. Things just do not feel right when he is away. There is a small part of me that was worried. Kahuna was traveling with someone he cannot stand, to a place he did not want to go, and spent time alone right before the pretrial. I was not worried that he would act out. But, I was worried it would be a struggle to not act out. I knew he could deal with everything on his plate. I just want things to be easy and peaceful for him.
Months back, at our department meeting, a new position was mentioned. I was so excited by it that I went in the next day to ask the director for more details. . . His response, "I am so glad you were the one to approach me about it. I said something because I was hoping you would be interested." For months, we have been discussing it. My input has been requested to build this new position. So, for months, even if I tried not to, I started to get excited by the possibilities.
Fast forward to the Monday Kahuna was gone, frustration was building. My director wants me in that position. He and my supervisor literally wrote the qualifications to try to assist me in qualifying by HRs rules. BUT, Hr does the first go through of apps scoring them all. They are ranked solely on their experience, and only a certain number are offered an interview. Well, it is a coveted senior position. It is two steps up from where I am now, and most of the department (who is already a step above me) is applying. Not that they want the job. Not that they want the duties. Not even that they CAN work the required hours. They just want the pay and title! All week, every time I turned around, someone else was talking about how they were applying for the wrong reasons. Even my team mate who, "never wants more responsibility than", and "never wants to have to lead" is now applying! IF I can get an interview, I will blow them away because this position is a dream come true for me and my true interest in the position and duties is well known. That is, if I get the interview! If HR ranks us by experience, and most of these people applying for the wrong reasons have double my experience. . . Well, it doesn't look good. . . Luckily, because we are IT and HR fully admits they do not really understand the lingo, my supervisor who will oversee this new position can review the apps and increase the interview pool if he wishes, as long as he can do it across the board.
Tuesday was the same as Monday except that my Kahuna came home and straight to our home from the airport.
Wednesday was pretrial day. The date most divorcing parties finally settle on an agreement. The date most divorcing couple can finally move on. Then there is us. Basically, they could not settle on anything because she is not willing to settle for less than 100% of everything (BIG house, almost new car, not having to work, fully supported by Kahuna) until the kids graduate from high school (8 years) and the majority of everything after that until she dies. His bonus is frozen and put into a trust. With the housing market being the way it is, we were also informed that the mortgage payment may be mandated to always be paid (I think he said straight from his check like child support) to ensure the house never goes into foreclosure. I think even all of that I could deal with if it were over. BUT, I also know that there is little chance she will get ALL of this if we can stay strong until the end. We just need to stay strong and not give in. And, when will it end? Well, right now there is another pre-trial to give her another 90 days to try and find a job that is not beneath her that will hire her. Then, we may have a scheduled end date. after that. . .
This was a rough day. But, we made it through to the next day! Back to another Thursday. . . Kahuna stayed home to go to an AA meeting. But, it was not his normal night and there was smoking allowed because of the location. So, he did not stay. Instead, he threw himself into helping me with my application for the promotion. In the meantime, I went to Princess' game. Everyone was sad Kahuna was not there. So, we called him and everyone said hello. I could hear the pain and stress of the week melt away, if only for a few moment. . . This time, she played exactly 1/2 the game. And, she did really well! We celebrated with Culver's again. Kahuna called to talk to Princess to see how everything went.
Friday I got an alarming email from my new renter who has not even moved in yet, but signed the contract. He had concerns. . . a whole list of them. I received the list over email, panicked, took a deep breath (like Kahuna said) and responded back truthfully. Luckily, I believe this was one of those times where things came across differently than they were meant.
Saturday I got to pick up Peanut who is spending the weekend with us. Sunday was graduation day! I was SO PROUD! to be there supporting Kahuna. Peanut and BuddyLuv were also very happy to be there and be a part of the day! I know it was hard for Kahuna to accept the fact that this graduation was not as important to Dude, who was not there. But, I think he still enjoyed himself! I cried! I was so proud! He was the most beautiful graduate there! After graduation, we enjoyed a wonderful dinner at BWW, the football game cuddled up on the couch and a beautiful and powerful orgasm on Kahuna's tongue when we snuck into the bedroom.
Maybe this new year is showing promise.
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
TMI
After a holiday season back - Here I am with Babushka to share her wisdom after a hard day at the office - Happy TMI everyone!!!!!
1) Do you have/ever had any dating or sex superstitions? (Wear 'lucky jeans' on first date, always light a vanilla candle, etc.) If so, what are they?
KAHUNA – I wish I had some clever answer but I do not. Perhaps I will start throwing salt over my shoulder (onto Babushka!)
BABUSHKA - I don't think so. . . Not consciously. . .
2) If you were stranded on the old deserted island and a genie appeared who could only grant you one wish -- to bring one of the following people to join you, who would it be? a) your spouse/significant other. b) an unrequited love or some person you've had a crush on. c) an old/past love! d) your best friend.
KAHUNA – Babushka, of course!.............with Jewel De’Nyle carrying her luggage :-)
BABUSHKA - I bet we are so boring to the readers! And, predictable! Kahuna! With Jewel De'Nyle as the genie.
3) Tell us "weather or not" you're in the mood -- how does rain, snow, sleet, scorching heat, sweltering humidity etc. affect your libido.
KAHUNA – Do not know if I can ever ‘not be in the mood’ once Babushka starts to rub me. Snow falling makes me romantic and causes me to endlessly kiss Babushka if we are together and miss her tremendously if she is not with me.
BABUSHKA - They all make me hot for Kahuna and our stories/times together.
4) Are you a crying drunk, an angry drunk, a 'I'm drunk, let's screw' sort of a drinker? (And, if you do not drink -- which one of those things is the reason?)
KAHUNA – I can be all of those when I am drunk, which is why I no longer drink.
BABUSHKA - None of the above. I was more the giggle girl and have fun drunk. Lots of flirting, no screwing. . . I always fell to sleep because my tolerance was so low! Now, I am not a drunk at all. But, not because of how I was when I was drunk. But, rather, how expensive it was and how much I enjoy being with Kahuna (and sober). I don't want to miss a minute of us to alcohol memory loss!
Who turns you on the most & why? a) the care-giver/healer (nurse, doctor, masseuse, herbalist, chiropractor etc.) b) the comedian c) the educator (professor, teacher, mentor etc.) d) the model e) the musician f)the politician g) the scientist
KAHUNA – Caregiver: Babushka takes wonderful care of me………and she is one hot nurse in her fishnets and 36DD peeking out of her nurses uniform!!
BABUSHKA - The Educator - Kahuna is great at sharing with me the knowledge of what turns him on. And, hearing him speak those words, wow! That gets me going!
Bonus (as in optional): Looking back, what's the one thing you've done which was supposed to be erotic, but didn't quite work out?
KAHUNA – Get Married
BABUSHKA - Uhm. . .Bring handcuffs to a hotel room and lose the key somewhere between home and the hotel room. . . Luckily, we were just joking around before anything started when they were put on, not actually when strapped the the bed.
1) Do you have/ever had any dating or sex superstitions? (Wear 'lucky jeans' on first date, always light a vanilla candle, etc.) If so, what are they?
KAHUNA – I wish I had some clever answer but I do not. Perhaps I will start throwing salt over my shoulder (onto Babushka!)
BABUSHKA - I don't think so. . . Not consciously. . .
2) If you were stranded on the old deserted island and a genie appeared who could only grant you one wish -- to bring one of the following people to join you, who would it be? a) your spouse/significant other. b) an unrequited love or some person you've had a crush on. c) an old/past love! d) your best friend.
KAHUNA – Babushka, of course!.............with Jewel De’Nyle carrying her luggage :-)
BABUSHKA - I bet we are so boring to the readers! And, predictable! Kahuna! With Jewel De'Nyle as the genie.
3) Tell us "weather or not" you're in the mood -- how does rain, snow, sleet, scorching heat, sweltering humidity etc. affect your libido.
KAHUNA – Do not know if I can ever ‘not be in the mood’ once Babushka starts to rub me. Snow falling makes me romantic and causes me to endlessly kiss Babushka if we are together and miss her tremendously if she is not with me.
BABUSHKA - They all make me hot for Kahuna and our stories/times together.
4) Are you a crying drunk, an angry drunk, a 'I'm drunk, let's screw' sort of a drinker? (And, if you do not drink -- which one of those things is the reason?)
KAHUNA – I can be all of those when I am drunk, which is why I no longer drink.
BABUSHKA - None of the above. I was more the giggle girl and have fun drunk. Lots of flirting, no screwing. . . I always fell to sleep because my tolerance was so low! Now, I am not a drunk at all. But, not because of how I was when I was drunk. But, rather, how expensive it was and how much I enjoy being with Kahuna (and sober). I don't want to miss a minute of us to alcohol memory loss!
Who turns you on the most & why? a) the care-giver/healer (nurse, doctor, masseuse, herbalist, chiropractor etc.) b) the comedian c) the educator (professor, teacher, mentor etc.) d) the model e) the musician f)the politician g) the scientist
KAHUNA – Caregiver: Babushka takes wonderful care of me………and she is one hot nurse in her fishnets and 36DD peeking out of her nurses uniform!!
BABUSHKA - The Educator - Kahuna is great at sharing with me the knowledge of what turns him on. And, hearing him speak those words, wow! That gets me going!
Bonus (as in optional): Looking back, what's the one thing you've done which was supposed to be erotic, but didn't quite work out?
KAHUNA – Get Married
BABUSHKA - Uhm. . .Bring handcuffs to a hotel room and lose the key somewhere between home and the hotel room. . . Luckily, we were just joking around before anything started when they were put on, not actually when strapped the the bed.
TMI - Post Holiday Return
After a holiday season back - Here I am with Babushka to share her wisdom after a hard day at the office - Happy TMI everyone!!!!!
1) Do you have/ever had any dating or sex superstitions? (Wear 'lucky jeans' on first date, always light a vanilla candle, etc.) If so, what are they?
KAHUNA – I wish I had some clever answer but I do not. Perhaps I will start throwing salt over my shoulder (onto Babushka!)
- your spouse/significant other
- an unrequited love or some person you've had a crush on
- an old/past love
- your best friend
KAHUNA – Babushka, of course!.............with Jewel De’Nyle carrying her luggage :-)
3) Tell us "weather or not" you're in the mood -- how does rain, snow, sleet, scorching heat, sweltering humidity etc. affect your libido.
KAHUNA – Do not know if I can ever ‘not be in the mood’ once Babushka starts to rub me. Snow falling makes me romantic and causes me to endlessly kiss Babushka if we are together and miss her tremendously if she is not with me.
KAHUNA – I can be all of those when I am drunk, which is why I no longer drink.
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- the author
- the care-giver/healer (nurse, doctor, masseuse, herbalist, chiropractor etc.)
- the comedian
- the educator (professor, teacher, mentor etc.)
- the model
- the musician
- the politician
- the scientist
KAHUNA – Caregiver: Babushka takes wonderful care of me………and she is one hot nurse in her fishnets and 36DD peeking out of her nurses uniform!!
KAHUNA – Get Married
Thursday, January 3, 2008
364 Days left to improve....
.....after a less than stellar start to 2008. As Babushka noted below, we had a bit of a rough start to the new year, yet I can look back at it now and see promise.
New Years Eve was pretty much a cluster of my own doing, but some good came out of the post-cluster cleanup:
2008 will be a challenging year but I anticipate great things. My higher power did not bring me to this place by chance - the plan is in place. My task is to simply step out of the way and do the next right thing.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
If the path of life was easy, we would never appreciate our accomplishments along the journey
New Years Eve was pretty much a cluster of my own doing, but some good came out of the post-cluster cleanup:
- I am determined to become more comfortable with the thought of 'disappointing' my kids by not changing my plans to fit into their needs
- Babushka and I continue to discuss and address difficult issues rather than try to ignore them or gloss them over
- I know in my heart that I can be less than perfect with Babushka and be forgiven by her if I screw things up (This is a big step for me)
- For the first time in my life I experienced what I would consider "Make-Up Sex" - Reconnecting after a time of discomfort or conflict
2008 will be a challenging year but I anticipate great things. My higher power did not bring me to this place by chance - the plan is in place. My task is to simply step out of the way and do the next right thing.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
If the path of life was easy, we would never appreciate our accomplishments along the journey
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Please! Someone tell me this is not how 2008 is going to be!?!
Polly Anna is gone. She is long gone!
Today, I am supposed to be at work. Today, I am supposed to be making another presentation on a great idea I had. Instead, I am home without a voice. Luckily, there is no fever. But, there is a virus inside me. What I would not give for it to be Kahuna instead. :-(
This is not the only reason why I believe 2008 is going to be a trying year. On top of being sick, I am scared, frustrated and upset.
Kahuna has now stayed over 2, maybe 3 night. BuddyLuv LOVES it, saying that he sleeps much better with another person in the house! He is even so wonderful as to insist on sleeping on the couch so as to not confuse BuddyLuv! (Of course, late at night, when I will not release his cock from my hands or mouth, we end up spending some time in my room, way after BuddyLuv is asleep) This is a positive move forward. But, it was also last year.
On Sunday, Kahuna and I talked about New Years Eve. We had just discussed seeing Juno, then picking up BuddyLuv and spending the evening here at our house. Kahuna is cooking dinner and I am relaxing because I am starting to admit that I am sick, thought it has been actually a few weeks since I started sucking on cough drops. Kahuna gets a call. No biggie. I am happy that he is comfortable talking to whomever even with me around.
Without going into the long, unimportant details, Kahuna semi-commits to an alternate NYE plan. I did not find this out under ideal circumstances. However, Kahuna and I talk through our feelings and even come up with an alternate plan that seems perfect for everyone involved: Bowling! Kahuna, Dude, BuddyLuv and I go bowling! Low interaction potential, distractions if necessary. I am already "for sure" going to meet Dude in 20 days at Kahuna's graduation. This way, he has met me before he has to sit alone with me! Whats the worst that can happen? We came up with the worst case scenario and. . . It wasn't too bad. . . Perfect Polly Anna plan!
Polly Anna is gone. She is long gone!
NYE comes about. There was a small miscommunication carried over from the evening before. Totally understandable. But, relevant to my feelings today. We talked through the miscommunication. Still wanting to move on from the issues, we continue down the path of the bowling idea.
Kahuna talks to Dude (playing with a friend), who pokes for information. Because Kahuna wanted to discuss in person, all he would give him is that the plan included bowling. Because Dude would much rather play with a friend than spend NYE with his father, now it is looking like there is a chance of 3 of us bowling. . .
Than I get a call that made me loose a heart beat and my blood pressure skyrocket.
Dude isn't coming. Kahuna isn't coming. Kahuna fears he has totally misread Dude for a long time. And, we just made a big mistake in trying to arrange a meeting.
Dude, in person, insisted Kahuna tell him the plan for the evening in front of Dude'sFriend and FriendMother while Dude'sFriend, FriendMother and Dude are out eating. Dude says no, he is not comfortable with it and doesn't want to go (and probably mentions does not want to meet me).
Dude proceeds to invite Dude'sFiend and FriendMother to bowling. (NOTE: FriendMother is also friend if Dude'sMother) Kahuna says no.
Because they had just ordered food for Dude (and Kahuna had to go), that he would be back when they are done eating and then they would discuss this further.
Kahuna calls to confirm they are still there. Nope, they are on their way to the bowling alley. WHAT? Kahuna explains that the bowling alley is booked solid, and that the place they were going bowling at was somewhere else. Dude says then they will go to a different alley. Kahuna says no.
Kahuna ends up at (single) FriendMother's house with Dude, Dude'sFriend and FriendMother being totally ignored the whole evening. Friend was supposed to leave for FriendFather's place at 8. Nope, wanted to stay till later so Dude and Kahuna could stay.
Now, I have mentioned it before to Kahuna. Although FriendMother has somewhat of a boyfriend, I wonder if there was an ulterior motive in the boys' minds. Friends, single parents, NYE. I love my Kahuna and I know he loves me. I also know I have nothing to worry about between us. But, BuddyLuv one had dreams of my dating a single father of a friend of his. . . It is possible. . .
Anyways, so BuddyLuv and I bowled for 3 hours. We had a good time. Though, there were moments I could have easily cried, knowing this was all a bad omen. And, knowing that Kahuna was not having a good night. And, knowing that Kahuna was missing me as much as I was missing him.
BuddyLuv never knew how sad I was. We got home and layed on the couch watching episodes of The Unit, his favorite show. At 12, he kissed me on the cheek and told me this was the best New Year Eve ever.
Yesterday, the first, I got worse. Kahuna and Dude were watching football. BuddyLuv and I watched more movies. I drifted in and out of sleep till I finally gave in and let Kahuna take me to the Dr. Kahuna has to drop Dude off to take me. Strike 2 against me, I am sure. And, we haven't even met, yet.
At the Dr, I am given two prescriptions. I go to fill them and the girl behind the counter comes out to say she is sorry, but the insurance card I gave her is expired. She shrugs her shoulders and says sorry, there is nothing more she can do. We can pay full price and they deal with the insurance later. I, with little voice, show her old cards new cards. She just says sorry. OH SO FREAKING HELPFUL! CUTSIE LITTLE WITCH! She doesn't think to make a call to confirm insurance is closed, just says it is a holiday, they are closed.
The man behind the counter says I need to start taking the meds. He and Kahuna start coming up with options. Finally, they call the insurance. Low and behold, they are open! They confirm my insurance is fine. They just do not load 2008 benefits into their systems until 7-10 business days AFTER the start of the year. Nice, so if I had something worse, and had to take more and more expensive meds, I could have been out 100s of dollars waiting for them to get their act together.
I finally get my meds, plus two coupons from the nice man behind the counter for my next two pharmacy needs and we are off. Once home, I am already starting to feel better within an hour of taking the meds first dose. Kahuna tucks me in, taking care of me and getting some soup ready for me. I ask if things are ok. He knows what I mean. He said they are what they are, and it will all work out in the end. That we can talk about it when I am better. This is hard for me to hear because I am a worry wart, but I am in no shape, or voice, to argue. Kahuna says he loves me and adore me, and that will never change.
BuddyLuv wants chocolate ice cream, so Kahuna goes to the store to get that and Nyquil for me.
I called in sick today. Actually, I emailed in. I am a few days under my 6 month mark and I had to call in.
I have not been able to get to the gym because of my cold.
In two weeks, Kahuna has a pretrial for the divorce. At the beginning, we were told most all divorces are done then. Now, because of how lovely the ex is, we are told that it probably will NOT settle then.
I do not know where I stand with Dude.
We have not even began to deal with Pumpkin (f.k.a. Peaches, wrong "P" word).
Someone, please tell me this is not how 2008 is going to be!?!
Today, I am supposed to be at work. Today, I am supposed to be making another presentation on a great idea I had. Instead, I am home without a voice. Luckily, there is no fever. But, there is a virus inside me. What I would not give for it to be Kahuna instead. :-(
This is not the only reason why I believe 2008 is going to be a trying year. On top of being sick, I am scared, frustrated and upset.
Kahuna has now stayed over 2, maybe 3 night. BuddyLuv LOVES it, saying that he sleeps much better with another person in the house! He is even so wonderful as to insist on sleeping on the couch so as to not confuse BuddyLuv! (Of course, late at night, when I will not release his cock from my hands or mouth, we end up spending some time in my room, way after BuddyLuv is asleep) This is a positive move forward. But, it was also last year.
On Sunday, Kahuna and I talked about New Years Eve. We had just discussed seeing Juno, then picking up BuddyLuv and spending the evening here at our house. Kahuna is cooking dinner and I am relaxing because I am starting to admit that I am sick, thought it has been actually a few weeks since I started sucking on cough drops. Kahuna gets a call. No biggie. I am happy that he is comfortable talking to whomever even with me around.
Without going into the long, unimportant details, Kahuna semi-commits to an alternate NYE plan. I did not find this out under ideal circumstances. However, Kahuna and I talk through our feelings and even come up with an alternate plan that seems perfect for everyone involved: Bowling! Kahuna, Dude, BuddyLuv and I go bowling! Low interaction potential, distractions if necessary. I am already "for sure" going to meet Dude in 20 days at Kahuna's graduation. This way, he has met me before he has to sit alone with me! Whats the worst that can happen? We came up with the worst case scenario and. . . It wasn't too bad. . . Perfect Polly Anna plan!
Polly Anna is gone. She is long gone!
NYE comes about. There was a small miscommunication carried over from the evening before. Totally understandable. But, relevant to my feelings today. We talked through the miscommunication. Still wanting to move on from the issues, we continue down the path of the bowling idea.
Kahuna talks to Dude (playing with a friend), who pokes for information. Because Kahuna wanted to discuss in person, all he would give him is that the plan included bowling. Because Dude would much rather play with a friend than spend NYE with his father, now it is looking like there is a chance of 3 of us bowling. . .
Than I get a call that made me loose a heart beat and my blood pressure skyrocket.
Dude isn't coming. Kahuna isn't coming. Kahuna fears he has totally misread Dude for a long time. And, we just made a big mistake in trying to arrange a meeting.
Dude, in person, insisted Kahuna tell him the plan for the evening in front of Dude'sFriend and FriendMother while Dude'sFriend, FriendMother and Dude are out eating. Dude says no, he is not comfortable with it and doesn't want to go (and probably mentions does not want to meet me).
Dude proceeds to invite Dude'sFiend and FriendMother to bowling. (NOTE: FriendMother is also friend if Dude'sMother) Kahuna says no.
Because they had just ordered food for Dude (and Kahuna had to go), that he would be back when they are done eating and then they would discuss this further.
Kahuna calls to confirm they are still there. Nope, they are on their way to the bowling alley. WHAT? Kahuna explains that the bowling alley is booked solid, and that the place they were going bowling at was somewhere else. Dude says then they will go to a different alley. Kahuna says no.
Kahuna ends up at (single) FriendMother's house with Dude, Dude'sFriend and FriendMother being totally ignored the whole evening. Friend was supposed to leave for FriendFather's place at 8. Nope, wanted to stay till later so Dude and Kahuna could stay.
Now, I have mentioned it before to Kahuna. Although FriendMother has somewhat of a boyfriend, I wonder if there was an ulterior motive in the boys' minds. Friends, single parents, NYE. I love my Kahuna and I know he loves me. I also know I have nothing to worry about between us. But, BuddyLuv one had dreams of my dating a single father of a friend of his. . . It is possible. . .
Anyways, so BuddyLuv and I bowled for 3 hours. We had a good time. Though, there were moments I could have easily cried, knowing this was all a bad omen. And, knowing that Kahuna was not having a good night. And, knowing that Kahuna was missing me as much as I was missing him.
BuddyLuv never knew how sad I was. We got home and layed on the couch watching episodes of The Unit, his favorite show. At 12, he kissed me on the cheek and told me this was the best New Year Eve ever.
Yesterday, the first, I got worse. Kahuna and Dude were watching football. BuddyLuv and I watched more movies. I drifted in and out of sleep till I finally gave in and let Kahuna take me to the Dr. Kahuna has to drop Dude off to take me. Strike 2 against me, I am sure. And, we haven't even met, yet.
At the Dr, I am given two prescriptions. I go to fill them and the girl behind the counter comes out to say she is sorry, but the insurance card I gave her is expired. She shrugs her shoulders and says sorry, there is nothing more she can do. We can pay full price and they deal with the insurance later. I, with little voice, show her old cards new cards. She just says sorry. OH SO FREAKING HELPFUL! CUTSIE LITTLE WITCH! She doesn't think to make a call to confirm insurance is closed, just says it is a holiday, they are closed.
The man behind the counter says I need to start taking the meds. He and Kahuna start coming up with options. Finally, they call the insurance. Low and behold, they are open! They confirm my insurance is fine. They just do not load 2008 benefits into their systems until 7-10 business days AFTER the start of the year. Nice, so if I had something worse, and had to take more and more expensive meds, I could have been out 100s of dollars waiting for them to get their act together.
I finally get my meds, plus two coupons from the nice man behind the counter for my next two pharmacy needs and we are off. Once home, I am already starting to feel better within an hour of taking the meds first dose. Kahuna tucks me in, taking care of me and getting some soup ready for me. I ask if things are ok. He knows what I mean. He said they are what they are, and it will all work out in the end. That we can talk about it when I am better. This is hard for me to hear because I am a worry wart, but I am in no shape, or voice, to argue. Kahuna says he loves me and adore me, and that will never change.
BuddyLuv wants chocolate ice cream, so Kahuna goes to the store to get that and Nyquil for me.
I called in sick today. Actually, I emailed in. I am a few days under my 6 month mark and I had to call in.
I have not been able to get to the gym because of my cold.
In two weeks, Kahuna has a pretrial for the divorce. At the beginning, we were told most all divorces are done then. Now, because of how lovely the ex is, we are told that it probably will NOT settle then.
I do not know where I stand with Dude.
We have not even began to deal with Pumpkin (f.k.a. Peaches, wrong "P" word).
Someone, please tell me this is not how 2008 is going to be!?!
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