Early bird or night owl?
Kahuna – Absolutely an Early Bird. I get up between 4:00am and 5:30am
Babushka - Absolutely an early bird! I love waking to Kahuna! Grant it, I usually end up falling to sleep again.
Where was the first place you ever had sex?
Kahuna – I do not remember where it was, just that it was not very enjoyable
Babushka - I would rather not remember.
On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? (1 is lowest, 10 is highest)
Kahuna – Probably a 9 (Divorce that will never end excluded)
Babushka - 9! There is little in my life, when I really think about it, that I am not happy with.
Are you more submissive or dominant?
Kahuna – I think I am naturally submissive, due to low self-esteem for years. I am working on that………as a matter of fact I took the risk of being dominant with Babushka last night (and I believe we both enjoyed it tremendously)
Babushka - I am 50/50. I love being dominated. I love taking control!
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Kahuna – Yes, once I saw Babushka for the first time
Babushka - Yes.
Bonus (as in optional): Describe your bed time habits. What side do you sleep on? What do you usual wear? Any night time rituals?
Kahuna – When alone, I sleep on the edge of the bed in my underwear. When with Babushka, I sleep Nekkid and always touching a part of her body. My nighttime ritual with babushka is teasing her/preventing her from touching my cock. Happy TMI everyone!!!
Babushka - My bedtime retual is to lock down the house (old fears die hard). If Kahuna is here, we put BuddyLuv to bed. Wait till he is sleeping, take our eyes out (contacts) go to bed tired, then wake up as soon as we hit the sheets. I cuddle next to Kahuna, spend ot time together, then fall to sleep touching him somewhere. If I wake up not touching him, (which is unusual because I am usually pushed up against him, while he is falling off the edge of the bed)I find ways to entangle myself into him.
I adore and miss you tonight, Kahuna!
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
TMI #133
Early bird or night owl?
Kahuna – Absolutely an Early Bird. I get up between 4:00am and 5:30am
Where was the first place you ever had sex?
Kahuna – I do not remember where it was, just that it was not very enjoyable
Kahuna – Probably a 9 (Divorce that will never end excluded)
Are you more submissive or dominant?
Kahuna – I think I am naturally submissive, due to low self-esteem for years. I am working on that………as a matter of fact I took the risk of being dominant with Babushka last night (and I believe we both enjoyed it tremendously)
Kahuna – Yes, once I saw Babushka for the first time
Bonus (as in optional): Describe your bed time habits. What side do you sleep on? What do you usual wear? Any night time rituals?
Kahuna – When alone, I sleep on the edge of the bed in my underwear. When with Babushka, I sleep Nekkid and always touching a part of her body. My nighttime ritual with babushka is teasing her/preventing her from touching my cock.
Happy TMI everyone!!!
Kahuna – Absolutely an Early Bird. I get up between 4:00am and 5:30am
Where was the first place you ever had sex?
Kahuna – I do not remember where it was, just that it was not very enjoyable
Kahuna – Probably a 9 (Divorce that will never end excluded)
Are you more submissive or dominant?
Kahuna – I think I am naturally submissive, due to low self-esteem for years. I am working on that………as a matter of fact I took the risk of being dominant with Babushka last night (and I believe we both enjoyed it tremendously)
Kahuna – Yes, once I saw Babushka for the first time
Bonus (as in optional): Describe your bed time habits. What side do you sleep on? What do you usual wear? Any night time rituals?
Kahuna – When alone, I sleep on the edge of the bed in my underwear. When with Babushka, I sleep Nekkid and always touching a part of her body. My nighttime ritual with babushka is teasing her/preventing her from touching my cock.
Happy TMI everyone!!!
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Was I dreaming?!?
I think I just woke up from the most amazing dream!
I had a dream that I picked BuddyLuv up from his Great Gram's house after school, we met Kahuna, Dude and Pumpkin at everyone's favorite pizza joint, then spent the rest of the evening enjoying a live sporting event! I dreamed that everyone not only got along. . . But, they smiled, laughed and were genuinely interested in each other.
I just pinched myself. . . I am not dreaming. . . That is really how it happened! It really was the most enjoyable evening!
Right from the start, it was wonderful! It was a stand in line kind of place. Pumpkin really wanted a salad. But, because they have a different line for that which was moving SO slowly, she was going to settle for pizza. I explained to an employee, who said it would be his good deed for the day to get her a salad. That delighted Pumpkin.
Dude volunteered school information while we were talking at the table!
Pumpkin was excited when I asked to try one of her croutons (I had heard from Kahuna before how much his family loves their croutons). She smiled form ear to ear when I commented just how delicious they were!
BuddyLuv talked and talked and talked, this is typical. But, it was compounded because he was excited to meet them, you could tell.
Dude and I connected over the breadsticks.
Off to the game we went.
We parked near each other, so we walked the skyways together. Pumpkin held the door for all of us, what a sweetheart!
Dude was busy texting, but Kahuna, BuddyLuv, Pumpkin and I had comfortable conversation on the walk.
Pumpkin was standing in the front corner of the suite. every other seat had a shared stand of sorts for resting drinks. I sat two seats in purposely, so that I would have one seat open next to me if she wanted to sit there. I went back to use the bathroom. When I came back, she was in the seat next to me!
BuddyLuv sat on my other side. Kahuna sat next to Pumpkin. Dude sat back by the TV so he could watch the baseball game.
I was once a hockey cheerleader. LaCross is a lot like hockey.They have the same rules, mostly. But, I asked Pumpkin many questions about the game because she was always more than happy to teach me. At one point, she was explaining something while Kahuna was trying to explain, too. when she was looking at the field, I mouthed I know to Kahuna, he hit himself in the head as if to say, "duh!".
At one point, I went to get up and get more water. Pumpkin offered to refill it for me.
BuddyLuv cuddled with me a few moments off and on.
When I went to the restroom, I came out to find Kahuna smiling from ear to ear as he reported to me that BuddyLuv and Pumpkin were talking back and forth to each other through their free posters.
Our team lost. But, we won! On the way back to the cars, I took the elevators instead of the stairs. Pumpkin joined me as the boys raced to beat us! She shared with me that she plays in band, and does percussion instruments.
My Kahuna. . . You have brought me more joy in the last year and a half than I can ever remember.
I had a dream that I picked BuddyLuv up from his Great Gram's house after school, we met Kahuna, Dude and Pumpkin at everyone's favorite pizza joint, then spent the rest of the evening enjoying a live sporting event! I dreamed that everyone not only got along. . . But, they smiled, laughed and were genuinely interested in each other.
I just pinched myself. . . I am not dreaming. . . That is really how it happened! It really was the most enjoyable evening!
Right from the start, it was wonderful! It was a stand in line kind of place. Pumpkin really wanted a salad. But, because they have a different line for that which was moving SO slowly, she was going to settle for pizza. I explained to an employee, who said it would be his good deed for the day to get her a salad. That delighted Pumpkin.
Dude volunteered school information while we were talking at the table!
Pumpkin was excited when I asked to try one of her croutons (I had heard from Kahuna before how much his family loves their croutons). She smiled form ear to ear when I commented just how delicious they were!
BuddyLuv talked and talked and talked, this is typical. But, it was compounded because he was excited to meet them, you could tell.
Dude and I connected over the breadsticks.
Off to the game we went.
We parked near each other, so we walked the skyways together. Pumpkin held the door for all of us, what a sweetheart!
Dude was busy texting, but Kahuna, BuddyLuv, Pumpkin and I had comfortable conversation on the walk.
Pumpkin was standing in the front corner of the suite. every other seat had a shared stand of sorts for resting drinks. I sat two seats in purposely, so that I would have one seat open next to me if she wanted to sit there. I went back to use the bathroom. When I came back, she was in the seat next to me!
BuddyLuv sat on my other side. Kahuna sat next to Pumpkin. Dude sat back by the TV so he could watch the baseball game.
I was once a hockey cheerleader. LaCross is a lot like hockey.They have the same rules, mostly. But, I asked Pumpkin many questions about the game because she was always more than happy to teach me. At one point, she was explaining something while Kahuna was trying to explain, too. when she was looking at the field, I mouthed I know to Kahuna, he hit himself in the head as if to say, "duh!".
At one point, I went to get up and get more water. Pumpkin offered to refill it for me.
BuddyLuv cuddled with me a few moments off and on.
When I went to the restroom, I came out to find Kahuna smiling from ear to ear as he reported to me that BuddyLuv and Pumpkin were talking back and forth to each other through their free posters.
Our team lost. But, we won! On the way back to the cars, I took the elevators instead of the stairs. Pumpkin joined me as the boys raced to beat us! She shared with me that she plays in band, and does percussion instruments.
My Kahuna. . . You have brought me more joy in the last year and a half than I can ever remember.
Friday, April 25, 2008
Whose fault is this week anyway?!?!
Another week in the books - one that I do not mind having in the rear view mirror.
Divorce - A day sequestered with PB and two attorneys is never a good thing. I could rant for an hour but basically she refuses to consider discussing a settlement and wants everything. Trial is August 7th - at least there is a light at the end of the tunnel (or is that the train of poverty approaching?).
Work - For me, overwhelming as is typical. But my poor Babushka has to end her work week on a down note. An unhappy employee that she supports yelling and screaming to anyone who will listen that she will not work with Babushka........and why.......because this chowder printed a 4,000 page document multiple times, waited until the job was mid-print and then demanded that tech. support stop the print jobs (which they could not at that point). Therefore tech. support is incompetent.
Another lovely example of personal accountability going the way of the VHS. I feel so bad for my Babushka, as she takes these things personally - she is someone who cares to a fault about the service she provides. Unfortunately for her, even she cannot fix Stupid (to quote Ron White).
Teeth - What is this you say? Basically I had to have a molar painfully extracted last night, a mere 4 weeks after having a root canal on said tooth. Why not pile on me when I am down, right?
One of the wonderful aspects of recovery and life with Babushka is the fact that I choose whether I am a victim of "circumstance or bad luck" (not) or if I allow others to control my outlook on life (not anymore).
I am blessed beyond anything I ever thought possible. I have a job, when so many other do not. I left a lousy marriage rather that stay unhappily married, as so many other do. And I have a dentist who just called me as I was typing this to see how my mouth was doing and to contact him anytime this weekend if I feel the need to.
Tonight is the night that my kids meet Babushka for the first time!!!! This day has been a long time coming and no matter what happens, Babushka and I have alot to be proud if - in each other and in ourselves!
Babushka and I finalized plans to visit my Mom and Dad in 6 weeks! I am so excited for them to meet the lovely Babushka - and they are excited too!!
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Take a good look at yourself (as the song goes....)
Divorce - A day sequestered with PB and two attorneys is never a good thing. I could rant for an hour but basically she refuses to consider discussing a settlement and wants everything. Trial is August 7th - at least there is a light at the end of the tunnel (or is that the train of poverty approaching?).
Work - For me, overwhelming as is typical. But my poor Babushka has to end her work week on a down note. An unhappy employee that she supports yelling and screaming to anyone who will listen that she will not work with Babushka........and why.......because this chowder printed a 4,000 page document multiple times, waited until the job was mid-print and then demanded that tech. support stop the print jobs (which they could not at that point). Therefore tech. support is incompetent.
Another lovely example of personal accountability going the way of the VHS. I feel so bad for my Babushka, as she takes these things personally - she is someone who cares to a fault about the service she provides. Unfortunately for her, even she cannot fix Stupid (to quote Ron White).
Teeth - What is this you say? Basically I had to have a molar painfully extracted last night, a mere 4 weeks after having a root canal on said tooth. Why not pile on me when I am down, right?
WRONG!!!
One of the wonderful aspects of recovery and life with Babushka is the fact that I choose whether I am a victim of "circumstance or bad luck" (not) or if I allow others to control my outlook on life (not anymore).
I am blessed beyond anything I ever thought possible. I have a job, when so many other do not. I left a lousy marriage rather that stay unhappily married, as so many other do. And I have a dentist who just called me as I was typing this to see how my mouth was doing and to contact him anytime this weekend if I feel the need to.
PLUS!!!
Tonight is the night that my kids meet Babushka for the first time!!!! This day has been a long time coming and no matter what happens, Babushka and I have alot to be proud if - in each other and in ourselves!
NOT ONLY THAT!!!
Babushka and I finalized plans to visit my Mom and Dad in 6 weeks! I am so excited for them to meet the lovely Babushka - and they are excited too!!
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Take a good look at yourself (as the song goes....)
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
A step forward. . .
For those of you following Kahuna's struggle for as much freedom as is possible when divorcing, today is the next step forward. We do not know how big of a step it will be. We have no false hopes that there will even be a decision about the house motion being brought forward. But, Kahuna is continually moving forward.
I do have fears about today. . . PB's attorney, if I remember right, had to cancel the appointment scheduled with Kahuna's attorney and the financial planner. Convenient for PB.
But, my dearest, most amazing Kahuna. . . I will be there with you today. I will be with you always. I adore you with all of my heart. I pray you have as much dignity and grace as the situation warrants.
I do have fears about today. . . PB's attorney, if I remember right, had to cancel the appointment scheduled with Kahuna's attorney and the financial planner. Convenient for PB.
But, my dearest, most amazing Kahuna. . . I will be there with you today. I will be with you always. I adore you with all of my heart. I pray you have as much dignity and grace as the situation warrants.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
TMI #132
1). Pancakes or waffles? With or without toppings?
Kahuna – Belgian Waffles with Butter and Maple Syrup
Kahuna – Bypassing the obvious answer, I will say the way to my heart is through my brain.
3). Have you ever gone to a topless/clothing optional beach? If yes, did you participate?
Kahuna – Yes and Yes. When I lived in
4). What song reminds you of a previous relationship (for good or bad)?
Kahuna – Come A Little Closer by Dierks Bentley (OK – That is for my Babushka).
5). When, where and with who was your best kiss ever?
Kahuna – My best kiss will be the next kiss I share with babushka wherever we are.
Bonus (as in optional): Does anyone not currently in a relationship with you have pictures of you or your body part(s) that you would prefer that other people not see?
Kahuna – Nope
Sunday, April 20, 2008
The littlest things can mean the most
I just spent a wonderful evening with Babushka!!
No, not that, although there was plenty of that Friday night and again this morning - my ass is still tender, but then again one should always be willing to give and receive :-)
No, tonight my lovely Babushka and her BuddyLuv came over to my new basement for dinner and a movie. After always having me over at their place, it was a joy to return the favor. Even though it is a basement it is a well appointed 2 bedroom, one bath basement of a lovely house.
I made steak and baked potatoes, then later we visited Cold Stone. We came back and watched Oceans 13 on my new LCD TV (OK, BuddyLuv and I watched, Babushka snored on my lap).
I just put them both to bed and got them all tucked in for a nights sleep. It was an absolutely wonderful evening. I am blessed indeed.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Life is Good
No, not that, although there was plenty of that Friday night and again this morning - my ass is still tender, but then again one should always be willing to give and receive :-)
No, tonight my lovely Babushka and her BuddyLuv came over to my new basement for dinner and a movie. After always having me over at their place, it was a joy to return the favor. Even though it is a basement it is a well appointed 2 bedroom, one bath basement of a lovely house.
I made steak and baked potatoes, then later we visited Cold Stone. We came back and watched Oceans 13 on my new LCD TV (OK, BuddyLuv and I watched, Babushka snored on my lap).
I just put them both to bed and got them all tucked in for a nights sleep. It was an absolutely wonderful evening. I am blessed indeed.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Life is Good
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
TMI #131
1). Did you have to pay or did you get money back?
Kahuna – My Ex (provided she will ever cooperate) - who is affectionately referred to as The Princess Bitch by my lovely Babushka - got the tax return
Kahuna – Foolishly spending money on an attorney working toward an ‘amicable’ divorce.
Kahuna – Funny, I was just thinking about this last night (because Babushka is a screamer). I would like to get more comfortable in expressing myself in a louder fashion.
Kahuna – I love it when Babushka gently rubs my back and legs. I love to caress and kiss the nape of her neck.
Kahuna – Get busy living or get busy dying (Shawshank Redemption)
Kahuna – I took my stereo speakers from the Basement and my drill from the garage of the house I still pay for but do not live in (no resentment there) this past weekend. Last thing taken from me without my permission was my pride and dignity (although I allowed the Ex to take that from me by not standing up for myself years ago)
Monday, April 14, 2008
Lucky Indeed!!
Just a quick note and thanks to my Beautiful Babushka.
A wonderful Sunday Evening of Orgasms followed by a Monday Morning of Orgasms................and she made darn sure that I knew she had read my last post.
:-)
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Goin' back for round two tonight!
A wonderful Sunday Evening of Orgasms followed by a Monday Morning of Orgasms................and she made darn sure that I knew she had read my last post.
:-)
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
Goin' back for round two tonight!
Saturday, April 12, 2008
My Kind of Successories.....................
I saw this on another blog a few weeks ago and saved it for a special occasion.Tonight is that occasion, with me thinking naughty thoughts of my Babushka and her beautiful butt!!
I am spoiled in that my sweet Babushka is one of those girls who enjoys anal sex. I mean she truly loves anal play and does orgasm as a result.
Not that this will ever replace her wet, warm and inviting pussy, but I am an ass man at heart and I am blessed!
Oh, in case you could not tell - I am horny tonight for my Babushka!!
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin"
I am Dyin' alright...........
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
TMI #130
1). Your boyfriend/girlfriend cheats on you with your best friend, who are you (more) mad at?
Kahuna – Neither or both, depending on how you want to look at it. Having cheated on my ex, I can attest that the problems in the relationship were present and were not addressed long before the actual cheating occurred. If Babushka cheated on me, I would be angrier with myself than anyone else, knowing I had discounted her or ignored her to the point that she needed to go elsewhere for companionship, love and sex.
Babushka - Well, Honestly, I am not sure what my reaction would be. In the past (I think I have touched on this before) I never had anything I cared about enough to do anything more than say goodbye.
2). Is there something someone could say to you that would cross a boundary of not being able to take back or forgive them?
Kahuna – I don’t know that there is – I suppose I would know if it happened.
Babushka - I think there are a few things that could be said that would cross a boundry of not being able to take them back. . . i.e. threats of violence can never be taken back. I think there are circumstances where couple could move past them. But, it would only be in special cases. Other than those cases, I have every faith that Kahuna and I could get through anything.
3). What non-sexual body part do you find the sexiest?
Kahuna – On my Babushka, it is her smile.
Babushka - On Kahuna, his chest! And, Eyes! And Smile!
4). Would you ever consider cosmetic surgery to have the perfect body?
Kahuna – No – there is no such thing as a perfect body, as everyone views attractive differently.
Babushka - I would LOVE to have the $$ to have plastic surgery. I would not go crazy. But, whynot?
5). Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
Kahuna – Yes, It was over 20 years ago during a very drunken state where someone who was supposed to be my friend took advantage of the situation (It can happen to guys too).
Babushka - Yes, a few times.
Bonus (as in optional): If you were going to have a one night stand, who would you rather it be with- an ex or someone totally random you just met.
Kahuna – I have never been a one-night stand kind of person. If I had to it sure as hell would not be with my ex, so it would have to be random
Babushka - I would c) go without.
Kahuna – Neither or both, depending on how you want to look at it. Having cheated on my ex, I can attest that the problems in the relationship were present and were not addressed long before the actual cheating occurred. If Babushka cheated on me, I would be angrier with myself than anyone else, knowing I had discounted her or ignored her to the point that she needed to go elsewhere for companionship, love and sex.
Babushka - Well, Honestly, I am not sure what my reaction would be. In the past (I think I have touched on this before) I never had anything I cared about enough to do anything more than say goodbye.
2). Is there something someone could say to you that would cross a boundary of not being able to take back or forgive them?
Kahuna – I don’t know that there is – I suppose I would know if it happened.
Babushka - I think there are a few things that could be said that would cross a boundry of not being able to take them back. . . i.e. threats of violence can never be taken back. I think there are circumstances where couple could move past them. But, it would only be in special cases. Other than those cases, I have every faith that Kahuna and I could get through anything.
3). What non-sexual body part do you find the sexiest?
Kahuna – On my Babushka, it is her smile.
Babushka - On Kahuna, his chest! And, Eyes! And Smile!
4). Would you ever consider cosmetic surgery to have the perfect body?
Kahuna – No – there is no such thing as a perfect body, as everyone views attractive differently.
Babushka - I would LOVE to have the $$ to have plastic surgery. I would not go crazy. But, whynot?
5). Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
Kahuna – Yes, It was over 20 years ago during a very drunken state where someone who was supposed to be my friend took advantage of the situation (It can happen to guys too).
Babushka - Yes, a few times.
Bonus (as in optional): If you were going to have a one night stand, who would you rather it be with- an ex or someone totally random you just met.
Kahuna – I have never been a one-night stand kind of person. If I had to it sure as hell would not be with my ex, so it would have to be random
Babushka - I would c) go without.
TMI #130
1). Your boyfriend/girlfriend cheats on you with your best friend, who are you (more) mad at?
Kahuna – Neither or both, depending on how you want to look at it. Having cheated on my ex, I can attest that the problems in the relationship were present and were not addressed long before the actual cheating occurred.
If Babushka cheated on me, I would be angrier with myself than anyone else, knowing I had discounted her or ignored her to the point that she needed to go elsewhere for companionship, love and sex.
2). Is there something someone could say to you that would cross a boundary of not being able to take back or forgive them?
Kahuna – I don’t know that there is – I suppose I would know if it happened.
3). What non-sexual body part do you find the sexiest?
Kahuna – On my Babushka, it is her smile.
4). Would you ever consider cosmetic surgery to have the perfect body?
Kahuna – No – there is no such thing as a perfect body, as everyone views attractive differently.
5). Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
Kahuna – Yes, It was over 20 years ago during a very drunken state where someone who was supposed to be my friend took advantage of the situation (It can happen to guys too).
Bonus (as in optional): If you were going to have a one night stand, who would you rather it be with- an ex or someone totally random you just met.
Kahuna – I have never been a one-night stand kind of person. If I had to it sure as hell would not be with my ex, so it would have to be random.
Kahuna – Neither or both, depending on how you want to look at it. Having cheated on my ex, I can attest that the problems in the relationship were present and were not addressed long before the actual cheating occurred.
If Babushka cheated on me, I would be angrier with myself than anyone else, knowing I had discounted her or ignored her to the point that she needed to go elsewhere for companionship, love and sex.
2). Is there something someone could say to you that would cross a boundary of not being able to take back or forgive them?
Kahuna – I don’t know that there is – I suppose I would know if it happened.
3). What non-sexual body part do you find the sexiest?
Kahuna – On my Babushka, it is her smile.
4). Would you ever consider cosmetic surgery to have the perfect body?
Kahuna – No – there is no such thing as a perfect body, as everyone views attractive differently.
5). Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?
Kahuna – Yes, It was over 20 years ago during a very drunken state where someone who was supposed to be my friend took advantage of the situation (It can happen to guys too).
Bonus (as in optional): If you were going to have a one night stand, who would you rather it be with- an ex or someone totally random you just met.
Kahuna – I have never been a one-night stand kind of person. If I had to it sure as hell would not be with my ex, so it would have to be random.
Sunday, April 6, 2008
But now. . .
As you can tell from my below entry, it was a rough day on Friday. Friday night I worked, bar tending until 1:30am. It was a rough night, I had things on my mind and dealt with the attitudes of 20 somethings who have no desire to excel beyond waitressing at the bowling alley (well, except the one who is excited that she may be waitressing at the strip club this summer). I got home from work, exhausted, body hurting. . . I walked in the door. And, my heart melted. There was my Kahuna, sleeping on the couch, watching my Son for me and waiting for me to come home to him.
I was wound up from work and the day. Off to bed we went, talking a bit. Finally, I drifted off to sleep.
Saturday I worked again. Kahuna, my wonderful, amazing, beautiful Kahuna, offered to take BuddyLuv with him. BuddyLuv was going to be home alone because, for the second "us" weekend in a row, Princess Bitch stomped her foot and denied something of great importance from Dude. He could only go to TWO tryouts for baseball teams (affecting his whole summer) if Kahuna would give him a ride to and from both of them. Kahuna being the great man he is, offered to take BuddyLuv even if he would be around Dude.
I waited with baited breath. And, it was very anti-climatic. They exchanged pleasantries, but there was no hostilities anywhere in site! YES!
Pumpkin saw BuddyLuv in the back of Kahuna's car when they picked up Dude. We are waiting to see what she has to say about that.
Princess Bitch also saw BuddyLuv in the back seat of Kahuna's car. This was unexpected as she avoids Kahuna when she can. Thank God, she is not the kind that would have said anything bad to BuddyLuv.
To be continued. . .
I was wound up from work and the day. Off to bed we went, talking a bit. Finally, I drifted off to sleep.
Saturday I worked again. Kahuna, my wonderful, amazing, beautiful Kahuna, offered to take BuddyLuv with him. BuddyLuv was going to be home alone because, for the second "us" weekend in a row, Princess Bitch stomped her foot and denied something of great importance from Dude. He could only go to TWO tryouts for baseball teams (affecting his whole summer) if Kahuna would give him a ride to and from both of them. Kahuna being the great man he is, offered to take BuddyLuv even if he would be around Dude.
I waited with baited breath. And, it was very anti-climatic. They exchanged pleasantries, but there was no hostilities anywhere in site! YES!
Pumpkin saw BuddyLuv in the back of Kahuna's car when they picked up Dude. We are waiting to see what she has to say about that.
Princess Bitch also saw BuddyLuv in the back seat of Kahuna's car. This was unexpected as she avoids Kahuna when she can. Thank God, she is not the kind that would have said anything bad to BuddyLuv.
To be continued. . .
My Initial Reaction
What a weekend of ups and downs. As you may have read form Kahuna's last posting, things were, well, what they were. I wrote this on Friday, literally right after I got off the phone with Kahuna. These are not the nicest thoughts. But, they were my thoughts none the less:
Not a damn thing changed.
1) Princess Bitch attorney advised Princess Bitch that, though it is great that Princess Bitch is looking for a fun career like an event planner, a judge would probably advise Princess Bitch to seek more stable employment.
My response: Whatever! Why the Fuck has Princess Bitch attorney not been advising Princess Bitch of this for the last 1.5 years? I believe it was all for show.
2) Princess Bitch's attorney advised them that, if Kahuna went for the house today, Princess Bitch would be filing to request that parental evaluation.
My response: Whatever! They are preying on Kahuna's guilt/regret over his criminal record (DUIs) and history of substance abuse.
3) Princess Bitch attorney said she believe Princess Bitch is starting to understand that finances are not as Princess Bitch thought, but will not agree to cashing out/taking a loan against the 401K to pay off the second mortgage. Kahuna's attorney said that, if Princess Bitch is starting to understand, maybe seeing a financial planner will put them on the same page so this can be resolved soon as finances are the only sticking point. Kahuna is calling today to schedule a meeting next week with a Financial Planner Kahuna's attorney used in her last case like this.
My response: So, is this going to work out like it did when Kahuna gave Princess Bitch more time to get off her fucking ass and get a fucking job? Cause, that worked out really well as we all can see.
4) Princess Bitch wants brother-in-law, who is attorney, present at meeting next week with the financial planner. Kahuna would not agree to this.
My response: She can't do shit for herself? How is she going to maintain a huge house (like she is demanding) if she can't do shit for herself?
5) A motion was entered to change the 4/23 date for from the second 1/2 of pre-trial to be another Temporary Relief request if they cannot agree on things after meeting with the planner.
My response: Why the fuck would she see the light now? So, lets postpone things again, cause thats going to get us to resolution.
6) If the financial planner cannot help to come to resolution and temp relief does not resolve everything, there will be no more attempts, just the already scheduled 4/23 thing and a final trial date schedule.
My response: Yeah, I will believe it when I see it? Why the fuck did Kahuna's attorney agree to yet another date that ultimately delays the final date? So, lets agree to another Temp Relief hearing to try and cut costs for a few months and delay the final instead of just going for the final?
I am pissed! This is one of the most fucked up thing I have ever seen in my entire life!
Not a damn thing changed.
1) Princess Bitch attorney advised Princess Bitch that, though it is great that Princess Bitch is looking for a fun career like an event planner, a judge would probably advise Princess Bitch to seek more stable employment.
My response: Whatever! Why the Fuck has Princess Bitch attorney not been advising Princess Bitch of this for the last 1.5 years? I believe it was all for show.
2) Princess Bitch's attorney advised them that, if Kahuna went for the house today, Princess Bitch would be filing to request that parental evaluation.
My response: Whatever! They are preying on Kahuna's guilt/regret over his criminal record (DUIs) and history of substance abuse.
3) Princess Bitch attorney said she believe Princess Bitch is starting to understand that finances are not as Princess Bitch thought, but will not agree to cashing out/taking a loan against the 401K to pay off the second mortgage. Kahuna's attorney said that, if Princess Bitch is starting to understand, maybe seeing a financial planner will put them on the same page so this can be resolved soon as finances are the only sticking point. Kahuna is calling today to schedule a meeting next week with a Financial Planner Kahuna's attorney used in her last case like this.
My response: So, is this going to work out like it did when Kahuna gave Princess Bitch more time to get off her fucking ass and get a fucking job? Cause, that worked out really well as we all can see.
4) Princess Bitch wants brother-in-law, who is attorney, present at meeting next week with the financial planner. Kahuna would not agree to this.
My response: She can't do shit for herself? How is she going to maintain a huge house (like she is demanding) if she can't do shit for herself?
5) A motion was entered to change the 4/23 date for from the second 1/2 of pre-trial to be another Temporary Relief request if they cannot agree on things after meeting with the planner.
My response: Why the fuck would she see the light now? So, lets postpone things again, cause thats going to get us to resolution.
6) If the financial planner cannot help to come to resolution and temp relief does not resolve everything, there will be no more attempts, just the already scheduled 4/23 thing and a final trial date schedule.
My response: Yeah, I will believe it when I see it? Why the fuck did Kahuna's attorney agree to yet another date that ultimately delays the final date? So, lets agree to another Temp Relief hearing to try and cut costs for a few months and delay the final instead of just going for the final?
I am pissed! This is one of the most fucked up thing I have ever seen in my entire life!
Friday, April 4, 2008
Kinda like kissing your sister...or so I have been told
Not that I have any siblings, but that is a bit how today feels. The motion / counter-motion hearing will now take the place of the pre-trial continuance, scheduled for 4/24.
The morning started with the Princess Bitch (PB) and her entourage in the courtroom hall, huddled and I am sure cursing me inside. The first request that PB had was for a custody evaluation - Ugggg. God forbid I would want joint custody and equal parenting.
My attorney and I met in a room and discussed the pros/cons; risks and rewards of letting the judge decide the initial matter of temporary relief. The two attorneys then spoke together to come up with 'creative alternatives'.
The result: We will be meeting with a Divorce Financial Planner next week to "crunch the cash-flow numbers". The hope is that perhaps a light will go on in the head of the PB and see the financial challenges we have to reconcile as a part of this process.
I feel good about this -it finally feels like progress is being made and I am interested to her this persons point of view. I know Babushka is less thrilled. I sincerely regret having her expend any emotional energy on this, but I am grateful that she is with me during this. Babushka also is frustrated with the inability to just "get it scheduled and done". She works in government - the legal process is kinda like projects at her work....................long, deliberate and unnecessarily strung along. Perhaps the PB is playing me for a chump........again. I sense that is Babushka's concern - that and the anger she has toward the sense of entitlement held by PB.
I love and adore Babushka and I hope she understands. Any chance for a settled decision is worth perusing, at least for a couple more weeks.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
"Whose sister is he talking about?"
The morning started with the Princess Bitch (PB) and her entourage in the courtroom hall, huddled and I am sure cursing me inside. The first request that PB had was for a custody evaluation - Ugggg. God forbid I would want joint custody and equal parenting.
My attorney and I met in a room and discussed the pros/cons; risks and rewards of letting the judge decide the initial matter of temporary relief. The two attorneys then spoke together to come up with 'creative alternatives'.
The result: We will be meeting with a Divorce Financial Planner next week to "crunch the cash-flow numbers". The hope is that perhaps a light will go on in the head of the PB and see the financial challenges we have to reconcile as a part of this process.
I feel good about this -it finally feels like progress is being made and I am interested to her this persons point of view. I know Babushka is less thrilled. I sincerely regret having her expend any emotional energy on this, but I am grateful that she is with me during this. Babushka also is frustrated with the inability to just "get it scheduled and done". She works in government - the legal process is kinda like projects at her work....................long, deliberate and unnecessarily strung along. Perhaps the PB is playing me for a chump........again. I sense that is Babushka's concern - that and the anger she has toward the sense of entitlement held by PB.
I love and adore Babushka and I hope she understands. Any chance for a settled decision is worth perusing, at least for a couple more weeks.
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
"Whose sister is he talking about?"
Thursday, April 3, 2008
I am not scared
Tomorrow is the next court date for Kahuna. I am not scared. This morning, I woke in his arms. This weekend I will wake in his arms. Next week I will wake in his arms. I plan to wake in his arms forever. Yes, I have my opinions about what I believe is a fair and just outcome. But, I cannot control that. It will be what it will be and will we get through it because we are who we are. Nothing the judge says will take that away from us. Everything we have is ours and worth more than all the material treasures in the world.
Sleep in peace tonight.
I adore you, my Kahuna!
I love you, my Kahuna!
Sleep in peace tonight.
I adore you, my Kahuna!
I love you, my Kahuna!
Fill in the blank ........ (at your own risk)
I sit here on the eve of my 'Temporary Relief' hearing and feel no relief whatsoever. The siblings of fear and doubt begin to work their magic on me:
I have been in a great space since my last rant about the Princess Bitch (Thanks Sweetie). I have been strong, calm and accepting. As I sit with Pumpkin, helping her read her book, I am none of these. I am all of the questions above.
My oldest, the Dude, confessed that he had in fact told his mother previously that he was uncomfortable asking me for money, just as she said in her motion. He knew money was tight for me and did not want to bother me. I just had a feeling inside that there was more to the story than he had previously told me. I had to ask again....I had to fill in the blank.
This fas somewhat shattered my thin veil of confidence, given he told me just last weekend he had never said anything of the sort. I am not mad at him - I understand his intentions were honorable. He is not even aware that this is any big deal. What I would not give to be 15 and self-absorbed again.
It simply adds a small bit of truth to her portrayal of the kids feelings toward me, a portrayal that I confidently laughed off two nights ago. I am not laughing now.
Doubt has supplanted laughter.........Fear replaces serenity
But this too shall pass......
By this time tomorrow this doubt will be gone.....
Replaced by a new fear that is yet unknown......
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
"If it was easy, anyone could do it"
- What will I do if........
- How will I......
- What if I can't......
I have been in a great space since my last rant about the Princess Bitch (Thanks Sweetie). I have been strong, calm and accepting. As I sit with Pumpkin, helping her read her book, I am none of these. I am all of the questions above.
My oldest, the Dude, confessed that he had in fact told his mother previously that he was uncomfortable asking me for money, just as she said in her motion. He knew money was tight for me and did not want to bother me. I just had a feeling inside that there was more to the story than he had previously told me. I had to ask again....I had to fill in the blank.
This fas somewhat shattered my thin veil of confidence, given he told me just last weekend he had never said anything of the sort. I am not mad at him - I understand his intentions were honorable. He is not even aware that this is any big deal. What I would not give to be 15 and self-absorbed again.
It simply adds a small bit of truth to her portrayal of the kids feelings toward me, a portrayal that I confidently laughed off two nights ago. I am not laughing now.
Doubt has supplanted laughter.........Fear replaces serenity
But this too shall pass......
By this time tomorrow this doubt will be gone.....
Replaced by a new fear that is yet unknown......
Get Busy Livin' or Get Busy Dyin'
"If it was easy, anyone could do it"
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
She knows my name!
I went to sleep smiling last night! She knows my name! I was on the phone with Kahuna who was helping Pumpkin with homework. She was working to memorize bones in the body. She was missing a few. I thought as hard as I could and guessed the names of a few bones I could remember. I was PRAYING really hard that I was right. . . Please be right! Please be right! Please be right! I was right! I helped! And, when Kahuna and Pumpkin were talking, there seemed to be no "reprecussions" or negativeness because I was on the phone. This I took as a positive sign. I cannot explain exactly why. But, I just got a good vibe from the conversation.
Kahuna asked if he could call me back later so he could finish working with her which was totally no big deal at all. When he called me back, there was concern and apology in his voice for having asked to end the conversation and call me back later. Who gets mad when they call someone with children about nothing important and the person they call is honest that they are in the middle of something and asks politely to call them back? Not me! I think it is a sign of honesty when we can say, "if this is an emergency, I am all yours. If this is not, could I please call you back?" We don't have to drop everything so that we can chat. We can live and mesh those lives together.
So, when I was talking to Kahuna later, he told me that Pumpkin knows my name and anounces my calls when she has the opportunity to hand Kahuna his phone! I am not just a mysterious woman. I am not a person with a name.
Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'!
I am livin'! And, smiling!
Kahuna asked if he could call me back later so he could finish working with her which was totally no big deal at all. When he called me back, there was concern and apology in his voice for having asked to end the conversation and call me back later. Who gets mad when they call someone with children about nothing important and the person they call is honest that they are in the middle of something and asks politely to call them back? Not me! I think it is a sign of honesty when we can say, "if this is an emergency, I am all yours. If this is not, could I please call you back?" We don't have to drop everything so that we can chat. We can live and mesh those lives together.
So, when I was talking to Kahuna later, he told me that Pumpkin knows my name and anounces my calls when she has the opportunity to hand Kahuna his phone! I am not just a mysterious woman. I am not a person with a name.
Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'!
I am livin'! And, smiling!
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